I am currently going through almost the same thing. We have taken custody of my husband's step son, who is now 12, about 2 and a half years ago. We got custody of him because his mother kicked him out due to the fact that she said he inappropriately touched his little sister multiple times (she was 5 at the time). When that happened I was 6 months pregnant with my son, so of course I'm thinking "oh its wise to bring in a child that is touching his sibbling to a home where a new born is on the way!" This child has a history of being in trouble. He has been sent to a psych hospital, yelled at the police, has very bad anger issues, and loves getting in trouble. I am at my wits end with him. He constantly likes to make you mad and doesn't care if you don't like him. I think he thrives on it. Over this past summer his older sister was here and she said she woke up to him holding scissors to her neck. I was told they were pranking each other and thats what siblings do these days by my husband.... I have since then put an alarm on my son's door! I constantly worry about my son being around him. I never want to leave them alone together. I have recently started having anxiety attacks and I know he is part of the reason. There is no point in trying to guide this child down the right path, I've tried everything. Positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, talking, not talking, everything! He does not want to change, nor does he care... I am worried down the road I will end up having enough and leaving my husband and I really don't want to. We don't have any arguments over his son, neither one of us want to be around him. But I am worried my health and happiness, along with my son's, will eventually get the best of it.
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