Dear @Phiona27 , Thank you for sharing your story with us. It is important for the community to realise the importance of setting healthy boundaries, particularly for those with BPD. It sounds like as much as it hurts to cut ties, you have realised the abuse could no longer continue. Abuse in anyway is never acceptable. I'm hearing how tough it must have been to watch your child take the road that she has. Carer fatigue is only so real when it comes to caring for someone with BPD. The continual hyper-vigilance can certainly take its toll. One thing to remember though, those with BPD are very emotionally sensitive. Whatever has happened, she will NEVER forget that you are her parent and what you have done for her. Stay strong! Stay True! Stay hoping! ... View more

Its extremely hard to cut ties (I have had to do this with my BPD 29 year old daughter and my treasured 2 year old granddaughter) but you are absolutely right - the abuse becomes intolerable.   Life goes on like a river and there will be days when you wish you could turn back time and days when you just want to curl up in a ball but there are also days, which become more frequent, in which you feel relief and a sense of freedom.   I hope you find peace with your decision.    It is the right decision.     ... View more