Our 18 yr old is desperately behind in graduating from high school. He has had issues with school all along, and we sent him to an "unschool" for 3 years, which was far too long Now he is in an alternate school, which allows kids to study at their own pace. Unfortunately his pace seems to be doing a day's worth of study in a week. He is bright, but very unmotivated. He is on antidepressant meds, and in psychological councelling. I have no idea how to get him to step up the pace. For university-educated parents, seeing our kids heading towards a life where they are likely to be failed McDonald's servers is bloody hard. I am despairing of both my kids right now. We have discussed this with both boys (the other is 15 and slightly better off school-wise, but worse behaviourally), pointing out that though we love them dearly, there is absolutely no way we can support them much beyond 20. Our working lives are nearing their ends (we are older parents) and we are unlikely to be able to support ourselves in any kind of comfort, never mind them. The younger took this to heart, and worked harder for 2 whole days, then back to old habits of not attending school if he could help it. We have told him his pocket money is now going to be entirely dependent on his school attendance, and completion of household chores. We are going to have to do something similar with the older. I don't know, I just see them living on the streets or something, just not coping with life once they leave home. I don't understand how we have failed them so thoroughly.
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