my son is 7 years old and his brother is 4 years old. Although same parents and family but they both have different characteristics, while his brother showing that he can following rules and policy well and can behave on his own but my first son is never listen to his teacher, often reluctant to following orders given to him by anyone. While we often teach him to think right but I observed that he has some thinking make me feel that I need to have serious care to help him change, such as: - He likes money a lot, he think money is more important than anything - But at the same time, he doesn't want to work or difficulties to earn money but he wants money falling from the sky - Sometimes I feel he has little empathy in some actions, he wants to win and does not care so much about the feeling of others. He want to win over his small brothers or cheating to win - He can push the smaller boy while playing football to get the advantages - He also has some difficulties in control his emotions, if he loose or the game doesn't go his way, he very quickly become angry, frustrated and cry. His emotion can easily come to the extreme side of the bar. - He is fast learner, all his teachers said that he is quite smart, and I also believe he also has no difficulty to understand what is right and wrong but he does not always do what is right. I means even he know something is wrong he still can do it without being supervised. - I want to let him do more works and practicing to help him growth but he also has small threshold for trying. He can easily give up. - Basically he like lazy life, everything come easy. He loves junk food (like mentioned above he knows it is not good but he still like it). - He has exercises from school he will says he doesn't have it so he doesn't have to do it. - He can eat fast but he always dragging, never sit properly and talk and finish meal very slow. After school he come back also never keep his stuffs and got distracted easily by anything on his way.   His teachers always call me to complain about his problem on discipline at school. I have tried few different ways to talk with him, understand him, use stories and other tactics to help him understand the consequences and reasoning but looks like it does very little help. Sometimes I feel like I run out of solution because I also do not be the same with him when I am young so I don't know what he thinks and what can work on him. Actually I would expect the school is where they know more type of students and more methods than I do, but seems like they rely on me.   I am not trying to draw a picture of a bad boy about my son. I still observed some good things from him like sometimes I teach him helping friends is good or making people happy is good then if he does something like that he will tell me. He also often showing love on me when he is small which is very cute. Some other points as well. But above are some critical issues that I think if he cannot change it will makes a lot of trouble for his life, including: - Cannot take responsiblities for his own activities, need people to follow and remind everytime - Lazy, like things come easy, don't want to give efforts or challenges - Lack of empathy, sympathy, hard to understand what people feel, just care about his own emotions - Don't do what he know it is right.   How could I help a child with this type of issues ? Beside actions from parents I think friends are very important factors to form his thinking and behaviour, how could I find children with better understanding then how could I help them to be friends and have activities? (using medium like Zoom ?) ... View more