Just thought I should finally update. We have been to hell and are still there. Things are not good at all. I can’t help my son he doesn’t want help from anybody. He is in a dangerous situation and will not even open up to the police. He is a very scared little boy. Scared of his supposed new friends r than Us and the police. I’m so frightened for him. FACS are now involved not because we are bad parents but because he is in danger and we and school and youth workers fear for his safety. Hoping FACS don’t let us down and hang in there cause we have nothing else at this time. I hear so much bad about FACS I just hope they can help ... View more

Taylor-RO thankyou. I have a handful of friends that listen but nobody that is going through it so I feel very alone. I’m hoping the change of schools will help and we are trying to get him the help he needs he just needs to take it. It’s so hard as a parent to watch that’s for sure ... View more

Jay-RO I’m hoping getting him away from the school will make a difference. He has quite a few food friends at the new school that he was in primary school with and they are good kids still. I guess we don’t have a choice he won’t settle at the other school no matter what we try. I have now also today had a second session with parent coaching which I am finding beneficial and I don’t feel so alone. I have seen my psychologist which helps a bit but I just feel so alone and so sad at how this is all panning out. Dad is good but he refused paint blank no matter who was taking him. Thanks again for your support ... View more

Hi @Jay-RO life has got tougher unfortunately. Back to school one day and already suspended. We are now facing having to change schools. He is refusing headspace appointments we have pediatrician app on Friday that I’m taking him to regardless. He is pretty much shutting down from everybody. He went into such a rage yesterday cause I asked him to do some school work. I nearly called the police cause it was frightening. He did settle eventually and then slept for 3 hours straight. I am broken completely I’m just functioning on auto pilot I think. It’s so so sad do watch this all unfolding and not be able to fix it ... View more

Hi @Jess1-RO things started off ok and day 3 we were going out to dinner to friends all looking forward to the catch up and I had shower got out and he had disappeared just like that. I called him he actually answered and said he needed some space for a bit but would be home. Why would I have believed that. Anyway he also took money from me and stayed out until the following afternoon. I made him do a drug test when he got home which was all negative. He said he was helping a mate who needed some money which is in my sons nature but I’m not convinced. He has been ok since but I am devastated and feeling like I have lost complete control. He has never stolen money and my trust in him has now completely gone. I don’t like the person he is at all at the moment and I struggle to see anything is going to change any time soon. I’m having constant panic attacks I just don’t want to do it anymore. I hate my life at the moment. Thanks for asking I have been trying to get on here to post but haven’t felt able. ... View more

Hi @Jess1-RO I had app with paychologjst yesterday I just feel I’m stuck I can’t for some reason let anybody help me. I think it’s because I feel so low that there is nothing anybody can do for me or my son that will make things better. Even though he has been good with his dad I can’t think positive about him coming home. It’s a horrible way to feel I just wish there was a magic pill that could stop these horrible feelings. ... View more

I am really struggling here. I haven’t even got my son he is with his dad and I am still letting all the stress and worry consume my every thought. It is killing me slowly. He is coming back to me tomorrow which is causing me severe anxiety (he has been good all week so I guess I’m waiting for the explosion) How can I live my life feeling like this. I don’t feel I can cope for another day let alone what could potentially be another few years. I am sure my friends are sick of me being so down and out so I’m cutting myself off which I know is not good but really don’t know what else to do. I can’t do anything to make myself feel good cause I feel so bad if that makes sense. How do I keep going on. ... View more

@Orbit64 I’m so sorry you have been through such a horrible time. I’m hoping it doesn’t continue that long I’m not sure I would cope. I can’t seem to find anything I like doing at the moment because I’m consumed 24/7 but stress and worry. Even when he is doing well I worry waiting for what’s next. We still see our beautiful boy at times and he is always very remorseful and sorry when he does stuff so that I’m hoping is a good thing. We all just want the best for our kids and nobody can ever tell you how hard it can be. Good luck with your boy I hope it improves ... View more

Jess1-RO thanks you so much for your beautiful words and support. it is more stressful than my marriage break up three years ago. I have some good friends whom I talk to at times which helps a bit. I just want my normal happy life back and I’m so far down I have convinced myself that Is never going to happen. I just keep assuming the worst. It’s such a horrible way to feel. I really miss my beautiful caring boy. I still see him occasionally so hopefully that is a plus ... View more

@Taylor-RO it is so incredibly exhausting and I’m also working full time. I’m never feeling like doing anything my poor daughter 17 is very understanding but I do feel guilty. I just want it all to stop I’m so stressed and anxious and the school holidays aren’t really helping either. I don’t know what the answer is or even if there is one but I do know feeling like this 24/7 is horrendous ... View more

Hi @gina-Ro thanks for the reply it is hard very hard actually my every thought is consumed with what’s going to happen next what if he continues truent school etc etc. we can’t give up on him but he continually promises us things will get better and he turns around and does behaviour a the very next day. Is always remorseful and sorry which helps a bit. We are waiting to see a psychologist through headspace we have seen some private in the past but the good ones always end up leaving and if a teenage boy doesn’t connect they won’t talk. He tells us he has no friends although he has a couple of really good mates but they go to a different school he went through primary school with them. He has very low self esteem which is also a worry. We are trying to guide him in the right direction but it’s hard when he keeps bucking the system. Punishment doesn’t ever seem to work and im not sure that is the answer really. It’s like suspension from school the only people it upsets is the parents it does nothing for dealing with the problems and it doesn’t upset the child. Last two suspensions my son has had he has had to go to work from 6-4 with a local builder and loved it lol so not really a deterrent. ... View more