Hey, I've come here today after another morning of my husband berating my eldest son (his step son) and am fed up. We are only newly married but this has been a quality of his our whole relationship and yes we do have a daughter together biologically. Most mornings my eldest son can't enter our bedroom, talk to him or even make sounds near him without him telling him to go away, to shut up or piss off. He's not allowed near our daughter, says he gets to close, is too loud and that she is learning un healthy behaviours from him e.g. grunting (which I'm certain most babies do anyways) everytime I try and point out his unfair behaviour he always turns it around on me or says he should listen to him. I feel he doesn't listen to him because he is constantly pushing him away, belittling him or sometimes even smacking out of frustration and when I point this out it becomes about my son's behaviour not his own. Sometimes he even belittles me and offers me the silent treatment when trying to raise the issue. My youngest son doesn't cop it as bad, but since getting with my husband he regressed in his toilet training and he enjoys again berating him about it, calling him a pissy pants, lazy and sometimes going as far to not even acknowledge his dry night's. Our daughter is always treated the best from him and he likes to isolate my boys in their play room so he can just sit in the lounge with our daughter and when they try to interact or come together with us he pushes them out by saying they aren't playing right etc. I feel so torn and somedays wonder why he's like this behind clos3d doors and not in public around family and friends. I feel like my son, especially my eldest is his scapegoat and everytime he's angry he is the one it gets taken out on. I don't want a failed marriage but need advice on how to combat this and make a stand for my children against him. No one in my family would believe me, because he never does it around them. Someone even went as far to say that I need to accept he doesn't like my son and just go with it... I don't want to do that. Please help me guys, I am open to anything ... View more