Hi  @hotwired , I don't think anything can prepare you for being a parent, especially a parent when you're kid is going through stuff and not responding. My kids are 17 and 15 and we've had our issues to deal with although your daughter is that bit older. It's sounds like you and your wife have bent over backwards to  set your daughter on a steady course, and it's heartbreaking to see her self-destruct. Some people seem to have this inner balancing thing and though they might make some not so good choices, they reset and I guess it stops them from going into deeper trouble. On the other hand, some people can't or won't do that and end up in a downward spiral and seemingly can't or won't get out. Given her mental health issues, there may come to a point where you'll need to step in and get her help. Manage her finances. It's a really hard call. In the meantime, maybe try to do something enjoyable with your wife. Try to keep yourself topped up.  I recommended this song earlier to someone but it's so appropriate; Guy Sebastian's "I'm Standing With You". It's so spot on.  Take care and best wishes, Birdwings ... View more