Hi I’m new to this site and live in the UK. I’ve raised my son as a single parent since he was 9 months old. We have always been so close. Since the first Covid lockdown everything has changed! He Couldn’t comprehend that he couldn’t just have his girlfriend over and he go over there, I suggested they stay at hers for two weeks and mine for two weeks which he didn’t like so after a big row he moved all of his stuff out and moved in with her mum. Since that time we have really drifted apart, he doesn’t respect me he is rude and selfish and rarely answers my calls or texts. His is however very close with everyone else including an ex boyfriend who was abusive to me. My son lost his job during covid and since then has been in and out of work and getting sacked from jobs the last time this happened I suggested he go to stay with my sister in the USA for 3 months to see what opportunities are there as he had always wanted to live there! Just before he went they told me they were having a baby it was a shock but I said I would support them however I could. Since being in America my son doesn’t answer my calls or call or text me which really hurts. I asked if they wanted help to arrange the gender reveal and was thinking their friends plus close family but my son has not only invited a toxic friend I have had to cut out of my life but an ex boyfriend who abused me physically and mentally for 5 years! I called my son and asked him why he had invited them and he rightly said it was his party he could invite who he wants. I just feel that I am not prepared to face my abuser who still tries to get into my head through my son. His Dad does not support me even though he knew about it at the time and him and my abuser are still best friends. I sent my son a message as he hung up on me, he then continued to lay into me via text and I understand how he would think I am trying to control his party, but this wasn’t the case. So I sent a long text opening up to him and explaining why I couldn’t face this man and he dismissed it saying just because I have “beef “ with him for something that happened years ago it doesn’t mean he can’t have him at his party! And I do understand I just feel so hurt that he does t care about what happened to me or how dangerous that man is and now he is not talking to me! I feel so lost and alone right now I really could do with some help! ... View more