My son is 25 and has had ADHD since the 2nd grade. His bio dad has never been present his step dad has been his dad since age 2. He became really defiant as a teen and never liked authority or his dad putting his foot down. My husband became resentful but still we never stopped loving him. He is in and out of the house, doesnt take medication anymore just smokes weed constantly. He doesnt pay rent, doesnt help around the house and just blew up at us because we told him not to smoke in front of our house. He got aggressive then says i take his dad's side over his.. but he is 25!! Says we never support him etc. I try to continue to talk it out. My husband is over it. My son just left and says he is no longer going to communicate with us any more. He feels his dad doesnt want a better relationship and we dont care. I cant make anyone do anything they dont want to do. I dont know how to stop this pattern. No matter how we help him he doesnt appreciate any of it. I dont want to give in and repeat the pattern but i dont want him to think i dont care either. Do we need time apart? He now says he is no longer calling him dad. And i know that will break my husbands heart ..he is the only dad he has ever known...please help ... View more