I’ve read all the books, gone to the psychs, gotten him meds, given him supplements, tried positive enforcement….he’s stolen at least a thousand from us and family, he lies continually (haven’t heard the truth in years) he refuses to take his meds half the time, runs away (we search the neighborhood for him at least twice a week), he steals from school, other kids, anything not nailed down or locked in the house, hes smart/manipulative, he threatens us, he could be any kid on this forum. He’s done it all. We’ve tried it all. His dad needs heart surgery and I’m afraid he is going to kill his dad by the continual stress. It’s a war zone here every morning and night. The only time we have peace is when he is gone. We applied for NDIS - nothing has come of it. He is adhd, asd, and most likely O.D. (we haven’t had that diagnosed) and has serious conduct disorders. He’s 10. I’m trying to complete a degree, so I don’t have the money to send him to boarding school (or I would have years ago). What are our options? Positive reinforcement doesn’t work. The only words he uses are no, I don’t care, you can’t make me. He makes a habit of laughing in your face. The boys around here avoid him unless they are bored and are looking for trouble. He gets good grades so school isn’t a problem yet. No one will look after him, he’s too disruptive to their homes and property. Extended family avoids him. His bio mom had serious mental issues. Knowing it’s genetic doesn’t solve the problems. We’ve seen a list of useless professionals. We can’t afford the outlandish price for therapy, though we tried to get him enrolled. He hasn’t bankrupted us yet, but it’s coming. We have been holding on each year closer to when he will leave. I’m so exhausted this morning I don’t care about the judgement. I haven’t liked this child in a long time, now I don’t even have enough energy to love him. He deserves a community that will understand him, where can I send him? What’s available?
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