Your son appears to be frustrated at the restrictions caused by his eczema. Young people often need someone older to help manage their health conditions from time to time. Some don't fully appreciate the seriousness of their health condition (or even try to deny it) so as to carry on with life as though nothing's wrong. This could be said about your son. However. He may not admit it, but it seems that he is taking his eczema very seriously. Your son knows that he has serious eczema and needs regular treatment in order to prevent him experiencing further complications. He may be directing his anger and negative feelings towards you right now. Perhaps there's no-one else to blame and deep underneath, some of this anger is at himself for not knowing how to handle it. You're trying your best to help by fetching his medication, taking him to the medical professional and so on - yet he won't use the meds. It seems that your son is genuinely struggling to accept the eczema and the possible long-term impact it will have on his life. Like all young adults, your son naturally wants to eat so-called 'junk' food as his first choice and naturally avoid the 'sensible' stuff. It's the healthy food that your son needs to help keep the eczema under control - yet this is another aspect of the condition he doesn't want to accept. Underneath it all, your son may be frightened but not wanting this to be really known to you. There's a possibility that your son could be 'comfort eating' the junk food as a coping strategy to feel better about himself. Enjoying the junk food helps to take his mind off the worry. From your point of view, it looks like he's being rebellious by eating it and perhaps he even wants you to think so. It seems the angry behaviour is his way of trying to cope. It must be frustrating for your son as he wants to go out and live his life. There's going to be that feeling of anger and frustration inside. Accepting the reality of serious eczema may be a reason for not taking care of himself. There's that constant worry about the future combined with feeling depressed about it. You're extremely worried for your son because you know he needs to look after himself and acknowledge this. You're conscious that the teenager you deeply care for will become an adult very soon. Independent and making his own decisions. He'll need to finally take full responsibility for his own welfare as you won't always be there for him - and he knows this. It's difficult and very unlucky.....It's hard..... He needs to take responsibility for his daily care and learn to accept this is going to be a big part of his life. He knows about the eczema and what problems it causes. He knows when it's time for medical advice and self-care. At the moment, he's angry with this problem, yet observing those around him living their lives. He fears the uncertainty with this condition and it's likely to be having an impact on his self-confidence. Understandably, he feels resentment. As long as he continues to apply his medication, he will be able to lead his life - albeit with some restrictions. Anxiety, depression and a lack of self-confidence can be a part of your son's eczema journey. He's getting older now and becoming more conscious of how this will effect his life - even more so than when he was a child or early teenager. He knows this will not 'go away'. Understandably, your lives revolve around his eczema and it causes much distress. It's not only the physical aspects of the condition he needs to deal with, but also the psychological side as well. Some counselling may benefit your son with regards to accepting his eczema and find some peace with himself at moving forward. He'll also - through counselling and self-help techniques - find ways to improve his confidence. As a young adult, your son may genuinely feel frightened at facing the future and the possibility of coping without you. Working with a counsellor could enable your son to address why he feels angry and look into ways of overcoming his situation. This seems to be an emotional time for your son - who really doesn't know how to deal with this. There are books and online materials available for your son to explore - especially when he eventually feels calmer - that can cover natural therapies, diet and other treatments. Although your son is having a really hard time right now - he can eventually learn to accept that his eczema need not overcome his whole life. If he continues with the treatment, takes care of both his physical and emotional needs, he'll feel more positive about the future.
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