Hello all,my wife and I have been together 6 years,herself and her 2 kids moved in with me 4 years ago,1 son who is now 19/20 and 1 daughter who is 18. From day 1 my step son was entitled, does nothing,can't do anything without involving everyone, plus much more. My step daughter lived with her dad for a while then that turned bad and she ended up living with her teacher, in Tasmania. Well,after a little while her teacher was contacting my wife saying it's time she came home,which was good for my wife. I have 2 sons who have moved out and I'm at the stage where I've done my bit and was looking forward to peace and quiet for the first time in 20 odd years. Now the my step daughter has moved in,things don't feel right. Here's my dilemma. * Both my step kids do nothing we ask etc I had a problem with them smoking in the garage so I gave them till Christmas (this was in October) to get off it. My step son gave up,my step daughter took it from the garage to her room,much to my discust. My wife does everything for them,makes excuse after excuse for them,which boils my blood. My step daughter is on anti depressants. My step son is the most entitled person I've met,won't do anything, starting working and after a week he thinks he's the only person to put in a hard day's work. I can't even ask him to do anything anymore because it's always on a condition, which my wife feeds. I love my wife dearly and I'm worried I'll lose her because of her kids. We make the rules for the house,bur as soon as I try to enforce it she will go against me,saying she didn't really agree in the first place,just telling me what I want to hear. I will ask nicely first time,then ask again nicely, then after 4-5 times and I'm still ignored I wig out,and then it's me against them because my wife backs them regardless of the issue,them I cop " oh,you have to speak nicely to them" ,she ignores the 10 times I did ask nicely. She can't see anything her kids do as a problem,my step daughter is 18 but talks and acts like a 12yo,because that's how my wife talks to her. We are in the process of selling up and my wife suggests we rent a 5br house, so they can take over when we find somewhere to buy,but I have absolutely no intention of doing that just to make it easy for her kids. She can't see how she has always mollycoddled them,made excuses for their bad behaviour, even a simple form they have to get her to tell them what to write,she won't let them grow up. I want them gone so I can live a happy simple life before they take my wife away. From and disgruntled step dad
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