Yes I do keep communications , I haven’t given up but I don’t know anymore what to do. I try to validate her hurting, with going to therapy. Setting up boundaries learning about BPD so it’s a lot of trials and errors. Do I wish a magic wand would bring her back to me ? Absolutely but the violence is a concern. So we opted to distance for now to get proper help .
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Thank you for responding. Same here when she was 16 she called the police on me for trying to discipline her on Christmas Eve. I have been dealing with false accusations. I completely understand. To save my insanity I had to cut ties. I appreciate you responding about your story very heartfelt but you had to do what is right . Thank you so much my prayers.
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I have not receive the support I have been searching for since where I live Mental Illness is not a priority. There’s a lot we all learning through our own experiences. However I have reached out to Theraphist and they all tell me the same about boundaries. Something I have already been dealing with. It doesn’t help for me because my daughter goes into a attack mode on her manic state. Yes if it comes to dangering my life or even her life then I would have to call the police. Does it hurt omg every day I am suffering because I love her so much. But she has to learn to do her and it’s getting very bad. I see her post on Instagram, FB and is just mind blowing. I hope I can find here answers . Or support no judgement . We all suffer to see our children suffer. Thank you for reaching out. 🙏🙏
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I know how it feels I lost my daughter to BPD she attempted on her life so many times. And I feel like I've lost her. she is violent and verbally abusive. She hates me and I have been in this roller coaster for so long I just can’t do it anymore she now 28 and acts like a 12 year old . It’s very hard to give them the unconditional love and support with out getting affected. I am now trying to help my mental health from this chaos and I keep myself away . Because it’s extremely damaging. I cry a lot I pray . She used to be so loving at some point she became so bitter and blames me for everything. We have gone to therapy done everything but she uses her dad a lot and he enables her. My heart to everyone in this awful nightmare. As to what I know she was abused by my mother and later I found out my mother also has BPD. I don’t speak to her. I came here to find other parents suffering like myself. If I was to let her she would hit me . But I fight back not that it helps her manic episode are completely off the chain. She gets violent and the verbal starts getting worse she snatches things out of my hands has kicked me out . It just goes on and on and on . She takes mood medication which has helped her self-harming but her attitudes is the same. At times she carries a great conversation but when I set boundaries it’s just as I just mess with fire and got burned. I can’t keep living like this .I can’t continue being punished or her punching bag. It’s very hard to distance myself but I have no other choice. When she needs she starts calling my anxiety is so bad I now suffer depression as well. She now wants me dead and wishes me to die. I have been such a good mother but I am so tired . I hope I can shed a light to someone.I had to cut her off my life. ... View
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I know how it feels I lost my daughter to BPD she attempted on her life so many times. And I feel like I've lost her. She is violent and verbally abusive. She hates me and I have been in this roller coaster for so long I just can’t do it anymore she now 28 and acts like a 12 year old . It’s very hard to give them the unconditional love and support with out getting affected. I am now trying to help my mental health from this chaos and I keep myself away . Because it’s extremely damaging. I cry a lot I pray . She used to be so loving at some point she became so bitter and blames me for everything. We have gone to therapy done everything but she uses her dad a lot and he enables her. My heart to everyone in this awful nightmare. As to what I know she was abused by my mother and later I found out my mother also has BPD. I don’t speak to her. I came here to find other parents suffering like myself. If I was to let her she would hit me . But I fight back not that it helps her manic episode are completely off the chain. She gets violent and the verbal starts getting worse she snatches things out of my hands has kicked me out . It just goes on and on and on . She takes mood medication which has helped her from self-harming but her attitudes is the same. At times she carries a great conversation but when I set boundaries it’s just as I just mess with fire and got burned. I can’t keep living like this .I can’t continue being punished or her punching bag. It’s very hard to distance myself but I have no other choice. When she needs she starts calling my anxiety is so bad I now suffer depression as well. She now wants me dead and wishes me to die. I have been such a good mother but I am so tired . I hope I can shed a light to someone.I had to cut her off my life.
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