Thank you for your email. We are helping each other and keeping each other accountable.  I think my daughter is very close to a huge crisis, perhaps then she will finally get the help she needs.  My middle daughter suffers also with issues but has fought hard for help.  She completed DBT and it changed her life.  She is happily married and has a beautiful baby girl.  What makes the difference is the personal desire for change.  We cannot give that to someone, they must want it.  Help is here for my baby if she also wants to be better. Take good care. ... View more

Thank you Josie for your post, I am just seeing this now. My daughter is almost 23 and we all believe, suffers with BPD.  She has destroyed so many relationships, lost great jobs, so sad.  She and I had a 6 month period where she would not speak to me which, in the end, helped me be able to sit back and let life happen to her.  As a mum, it is hard, really hard.  However, as you state below, it is her life and her journey.  I am praying for a good outcome. Hope you have been able to find peace.   ... View more

I was looking for some information when I came across your post - I feel your pain.  My 22 year old daughter has accused me of the worst crimes - I don't love her, I don't care if she lives, I am a horrible mother, I love my other daughters more - and on it goes.  I also had such a great relationship with her until she hit 18 and the she became someone I do not know.  It is only getting worse.  I had to block her after a severe outburst to protect myself.  The guilt never ends.  Could I have done more?  Am I the reason?  My thoughts and emotions are such a mess.  I know in my head what she is saying is not true but my heart is crushed with each word she speaks.  I hope your daughter ended up getting help?  How are you doing?  Much of this illness is a result of abandonment, her father disappeared a few years ago and she felt it most.  I was left trying to pick up the pieces and clearly, was not successful.  At what point do we forgive ourselves for having to turn away from the abuse? I pray for all of us in this situation, that somehow, sometime, we find the peace our children refuse to pursue.  ... View more