This is an old post and you’ve probably moved on but I wanted to share my story in case it helps someone. I was considered a bright kid but my reports always said ‘could do better if tried harder’. When I hit my teens I felt like life was a roller coaster of emotion. A few decades later and I found myself reading about ADHD in women and girls. It turns out ADHD is not at all what I thought it was and it explains both the good bits and the sad bits of my life. I could put it in my own words but I think it is better just to say please consider this as a possibility. I recommend an organisation called Kaleidoscope (they have a women and ADHD 101 page). I also recommend ‘How to ADHD’ on youtube, Jess McCabe who does that channel has an excellent TED talk called ‘Failing at Normal’. For ADHD in a nutshell check out Dani Donovan’s memes. If you have ADHD there is a good chance you’ll see yourself in her memes. Ps one interesting thing is that folks with ADHD are apparently slightly more likely not to be heteronormative. Not everyone of course but quite often ADHD groups are really great safe spaces for anyone who is gender and/or sexuality diverse.  All the best with your parenting challenges   ps if you haven’t checked out Dr Ross Greene and CPS it is a wonderful framework designed specifically for dealing with challenges with explosive kids but which works for everyone imv because it is a respectful way to work through emotional obstacles. ... View more

Hey @rupe1012001, it's awesome to hear that your daughter has seen great improvements through finding the right help.    That frustration around our teen's being self-centred and lazy is completely understood and I'm sure many other parents will relate to that one as well! I'm lucky that my daughter is now 16 with her L's, so I have that leverage now. Because she wants to drive and get her hours done, she is much more motivated to listen and help out!    I'm glad you've found something that works to help you get through haha.    If you've got any communication tips you've learned that you'd like to share with the community, please feel free to jump onto this week's discussion on Communicating with Teens here  ... View more