Gosh there can be so many reasons! Firstly I feel for you. It's not an easy road to navigate especially when you aren't getting any support from the Dad. ... View more

Hi sorry to hear this, it must be scary and very worrying to see your daughter behave in such a way. Firstly remember that anger can come from emotional pain. What’s going on in your daughters life, what has changed in her world? How are you reacting to this behaviour? What are your expectations? Is there something she’s not getting from you or possibly her father, and what’s school like and are there any other external influences? Is there a-lot of stress in the house that your daughter may be picking up on? How long has your daughter been behaving like this? Does your daughter have a nice group of friends? When is the last time you shared a funny moment? These are just some questions off the top of my head, hopefully they help you in some way. Feel free to reach out if you need. Not sure if we can disclose personal details on here or if there’s a way to connect? … I’m happy to share more and help you work through this coming from a mum of 2 daughters that genuinely cares. ... View more

Ok thanks for sharing and being so honest here. There are a couple of things going on. Let’s first talk about your personal guilt - you did not cause this behaviour, you aren’t responsible for it. Perhaps as a suggestion ask questions in a curious way, “what does it feel like when you self harm yourself, does it hurt, does it feel good. This might sound crazy but if we do this instead of “OMG how could you do this to yourself!!! or this hurts me and makes me feel so sad to see you hurt yourself like this” etc It can help them to think about what they are doing to themselves, and not feel judged for it and not carry guilty feelings because of how much it hurts their mother or father when they SH. Does this make sense? If you react in such a way when you see the scars she won’t come to you and share things with you instead will become defensive and defiant. Again this isn’t your fault, but the way you choose to react is your choice. Let your daughters see the fun mum you can be, smile (makes such a difference) Don’t stop doing life, try and take the seriousness out of this situation, you’ll start to feel free, your daughters will both notice, your hubby will notice. Be kind to yourself, try and do atleast 3 nice things for yourself every week. I understand this situation is hard, my daughter has SH too. When I learnt to change my approach I felt less pressure and so did they. And remember again it’s not your fault. I hope this is helpful x ... View more

So sorry life is so difficult right now! Seems like you have lots going on here. What’s the toughest part for you right now ? Is it your marriage, your daughters and how they are feeling? Or is it your own feelings and how to manage them? Just trying to break this down for you so it doesn’t cause so much overwhelm. What’s happening in your marriage if you feel comfortable to share, I may be able to provide some support and guidance. My youngest was pulling out her hair and my eldest wanted to end her life. Reach out here for you x ... View more

Hi for sure! I’ve experienced estrangement, parental alienation, and conflict coupled with all the emotions that come with including; loneliness, confusion, hurt, pain, anger, grief, abandonment etc. For 5 years this was my everyday life with my daughter I was broken and on bended knee, so then I decided to go on a self discovery journey to find out who I was at my core and only then did I manage to turn things around with my daughter. It’s been a massive growth time with many lessons learnt that I’m happy to share even if it helps 1 person it’s so worth it and makes my journey a worthwhile one. To all the mums and dads you’ve got this 💪 ... View more

Hi sorry I’m a bit slack with catching up on my emails! Great question @Taylor-RO, I think what helped me the most and enables me to help other Mums is that inner work we do on ourselves, it truly changes things, it changes the way we think, the way we behave, it helps us to grow and learn and be accountable and most importantly be vulnerable. ... View more

Hi, oh gosh been through something very similar! So can definitely relate! Ask yourself WHY do you think your daughter is behaving this way? Start from there, it’s a puzzle that slowly over time you can piece together. I work with mums 1:1 to help them have better relationships with their daughters. It’s a balance somewhere you need to meet in the middle, it’s not easy, and you may not like hearing this but i’m afraid it starts with you, as that’s what what I learnt. Of course not everyone situation is the same and there are always lots of different underlying factors but still we are half of the puzzle. ... View more

Hi great question - to be honest I think seeing life from their perspective, stepping into their shoes and self reflection too I would say are the 2 biggest key things. Hope this is helpful. I have developed a program that I put together and developed a free nourish pack to help Muma bears feel stronger within themselves, especially good for those experiencing estrangement, parental alienation or conflict in general. ... View more

Hi there I feel your pain - my daughter is 18 and moved out two years ago. It was so hard to accept, I personally felt so rejected as a mum. I now help Mums work through their grief and conflict through my own experience, as I know how lonely, confusing and isolating everything can be. My situation affected my health, my career, my personal relationships. Just by helping 1 Mum has made my journey worth it. My heart goes out to you 💖 ... View more

Hey, sorry to hear this, what’s happening? I may be able to help you. ... View more

Hey thanks for welcoming me to this group. I’m a mum of 2 daughters. 1 lives with me 50/50 and 1 chose to live with her dad 2 years ago. It’s been a long tough road, have learnt so much during this time, even how strong I am. Felt like I failed as a parent was super hard on myself. Can anyone relate? ... View more