Hello,   Thanks very much for taking the time to reflect on my post, and share your thoughts.  Yes, I have shared with my wife.  She is much more relaxed with this topic, knowing that long before I came into their lives, 7 years ago, that she has raised her/our daughter with love and respect and equipted her with the tools to negotiate the process of growing up to be an independent and empowered person. I see all that, and while she still has a lot of growing up to do ( and so do I ) at her core she is a quality human being, treats people kindly....for this I am blessed.  She is not overtly doing anything "wrong" or "inappropriate", other than exploring a relationship with a boy, that is from my outsider perspective, is just deeper/special than any dating previously.   My "worries" are my worries...I'm projecting or getting in my head of things that are natural.  In it's most simple terms, it annoys me that someone is more than likely being intimate with her...with her concent.  It's a complete normal process of growing into her life journey.   She knows about safety and accountability in this area.  The more I think of this, then I resent this young man (who for all intents and purposes has been and treats my daughter respectively) .  When he's at our home, I can't sleep, and I end up just seething at what is or isn't happening.   I know this is only pushing both my daughter and wife away...I am still doing counselling, and my daughter said she was open to going with me...which I really appreciate, and makes me believe that she is aware of my struggles...but I should be the one to be the rock for her and my wife.  That saddens my that I have not handled myself better...and let my insecurities rule the narrative over the 5 weeks when this became know to us....i.e. her relationship.  Thanks for sharing the other references.   ... View more