It sounds like you have a heart of gold and are absolutely doing your best. It also sounds like because of this characteristic you are absolutely being taken advantage of. You are paying for his children but also him. If he didn't have those children you would be paying his way, unless he has a specific reason to not be able to work it's unacceptable. I would have a conversation with your partner and let him know that you are no longer willing to provide 99% financial support to him which includes his children. What is he spending his money on? I'd be questioning his motivation for being in this relationship. Is it one of convenience for him? Maybe he doesn't even realise what he's doing to you because it's been so long? A quick chat could spur his motivation. Good luck! ... View more