My husband and I are really struggling with our 13 year old daughter. She started her period about two years ago and physically looks 16 to 17 years old. In her mind I believe she thinks we’re being unfair and it breaks our hearts to see her hysterically cry, while digging her nails into her arm. She believes she can set the rules, she’s stronger and taller than me now. She doesn’t seem to be able to communicate with her younger sisters without winding them up or being nasty. She’s a closed book won’t tell me when she’s on her period, even the mention of the word brews up a huge amount of hatred and she exits the room. I leave period pants, tampons and pads out and hope she’s listening taking in a bit of the information I’m trying to share before she slams the door in my face. She doesn’t seem to appreciate anything we do for her and when we try and explain to her how her behaviour is affecting us and the rest of the family but at the same time telling her how much we love her she rolls her eyes and pushes us away literally and physically. It’s like she hates us which I know isn’t the case but she argues back and is very rude at home and in public (in public she thinks she’s being grown up and in her eyes is showing off thinking she’s funny) but comes across as a rude child. She’s very good with her friends and very reliant on us won’t do sleepovers. There’s so much shouting, I just don’t know how to get through to her, it’s breaks my heart she’s so sad too but it’s her actions, aggression and belief she is the 3rd adult in the house that causes constant conflict with us as her parents or her sisters 10 years and 5 years.
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