Hi broken-muma .. how are you doing? Have you heard from your son? I've just reconnected with my daughter after a week with a similar situation, its heartbreaking. It's really hard to know what to do at the time and I understand the desperation!
I'm grateful to be in touch now (even though she's not staying at home at the moment, and doesn't want to come back, but we are working out solutions together), and am having to learn how to let go and focus on the interactions we have being positive and possibly constructive, and managing my emotions and worries away from her so that her worry about me doesn't add to her burden. Easier said than done and doing this in real time, lots of tears and sleepless nights! At my lowest point I'm in despair, but when I feel she is safe and we are connected I'm looking at the bigger picture, figuring out how I can give myself what I need and imagining the kind of relationship that we might evolve into as I let go and slowly build acceptance, trust, and faith in ... well ... something ... maybe "Grace". Accepting she has her Path in life, and this is a Journey that we possibly just need to take to find our way .. individually and together .. even when that is apart.
I do find talking with other parents who can relate helpful. If you feel to, let us know how you are doing. Big hug.
