09-18-2018 07:20 PM
09-24-2018 06:59 PM
09-24-2018 07:51 PM
Hi @lizard0812 I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling this way, it sounds like a tough time. You are doing the best you can in a difficult situation and I'm certain down the track your son will look back and realise how much love and support you have given him. I would encourage some self-care right now and it's really important that you look after yourself during this time. I'm going to tag some members for support @Happy @Moggy3kids @Helpful_Mum @hippy_mum We're here for you
09-24-2018 09:04 PM
09-24-2018 09:49 PM
Oh boy he is giving you a hard time at the moment! The risk taking behaviours such as smoking can often be from wanting to fit in with his peers. Do you know his friendship group well? With my two boys I often noticed that big swings in out of character behaviour often occurred when there were new friends on the scene. I hear what you are saying about how much it hurts to have your baby boy act in this way. It was much simpler when we could fix things with super hero pajamas and hot milo. By just being there as a constant you are providing protective factors that help balance his risk ones at the moment. I know it doesn't feel like it but you are doing great mumma.
09-24-2018 10:40 PM - last edited on 09-25-2018 11:31 AM by Jess1-RO
Yeah he sure is at the moment @Moggy3kids. I don’t know his friendship groups that well. I know his regular one which are his age but not these older ones. I am a constant but he is not interested
I am the bad guy apparently. Such a horrible way to feel that we can’t help them like we idea to be able to
09-25-2018 10:35 PM
@lizard0812 it is incredibly hard, despite logically knowing about the hormones and brain development it does not stop the behaviour from hurting. The balance of boundaries and love when dealing with disrespectful behaviour is no easy feat. As with @Moggy3kids it will most definitely swing back round eventually. The imperative thing is your own self-care, your own safe space away from the kids. Even if it's just fifteen minutes with a book to start out.
I have found yoga really beneficial, is there anything you enjoy that focuses on mind and body etc?
09-29-2018 07:39 AM