Hi, I am mum 45, with dad 46 and two daughters 15 (16 in May) and daughter 14. For the past 18 months our eldest daughter has become somebody we don’t know. Her behaviours and anttitudes are devestating, including significant school refusal, drug use and extreme violence. We have exhausted all avenues in terms of support and as she is not indicating self harm behaviour there is not much we can do. She refuses medical and psychological intervention. Repeatedly we have had referrals which she simply refuses to attend. Her school have been amazing in terms of additional support and exemptions from assessments. My husband, her father, took almost a year off work last year to be at home as support. Nothing has or is working. The toll on all of us is mental, physical and financial. We want to support our daughter no matter what, but we are at a point now where our mental health is in serious decline, our younger daughter is not coping, our ability to maintain our professional lives to support ourselves is becoming impossible and the constant stress of what tomorrow will bring is overwhelming and hindering any opportunity to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I would never want to give up on my child, but we are finding it very difficult to be supportive whilst experiencing physical and verbal abuse, theft and chaos. We are at breaking point. Thanks for reading. ... View more