My first husband and I had three children aged (now) Miss 16, Mr 14 and Miss 13. We have been divorced for five years. I have since remarried in March 2022 & Miss 16 and my new husband don’t get along. Whilst I could easily sit here and blame my ex who has brain washed her, I’m aware my current husband isn’t faultless, nor myself either. I used to have all my kids 60% of the time but since April 2023 Miss 16 has chosen to stay at her fathers., I rarely see her, and generally the only times I do is for her birthday or Christmas - not for any other reason than she always pulls the pin on me at the last moment :-(… even despite a catch up only between me and her with no one else, she still comes up with a last minute reason why she can’t see me. This is breaking me. I reach out to her & it just seems she wants absolutely nothing to do with me. What has provoked my post tonight, is in the last month she has offered to come and stay at my place for 2 separate nights and obviously on both occasions she has pulled the pin despite these being nights when my new husband was going to be out of town. I just can’t wrap my head around why she would do this because she keeps telling me that she just a problem she has with my new husband but nothing against me. But this action indicates the problem is me but no one will tell me what or why or anything. She doesn’t even seemingly want to see her grandfather (my father) anymore. Tonight Mr. 14 told me that Miss 16 says she will offer to stay at my place but pull the pin at the last minute so she doesn’t seem rude to me because at least she is offering.??!! I feel so hurt and angry. I’ve extended the olive branch so many times, I have bent over backwards to do anything that’ll make her happy..then I realised she has only followed through seeing me on occasions where she will get a gift from me and it could be just fluke but….I dunno. Her father is absolutely no help and not supportive or encouraging of her to have a relationship with me. How do I fix this? On the bright side, Mr 14 and Miss 13 are unphased by all of this. They are aware it is happening but it does not change how they see me thankfully. They do say Miss 16 gives her father a hell of a (bad) time and is quite bogged down with daily dramas with friends etc. ... View more