Yes, we have the same issue with our 14 year old daughter.  She spends a lot of time in her room which in the beginning made us sad, as before reaching puberty she loved hanging out with us.  But then we remembered how much time WE spent in our rooms away from our parents, listening to music etc and it was more understandable.  She needs her space.  The device issue is always a concern, because you are never quite sure what they are looking at but it is not always social media, for example our daughter reads books on it, edits her photographs, and watches funny videos on You Tube.   In our day, we didn't have the convenience of everything on one device, so perhaps we emerged from our rooms more often, for example to watch TV!  Anyway, we encourage family 'bonding' by having a  movie night either Fridays or Saturdays:  this can be either a cinema visit, or something on the TV.  We also play board games, which work very well and can be a real laugh.  A meal out somewhere easy like Hogs Breath works too, with no devices allowed on the table!  Hope that helps.  We have older children too, and they came out of their teenage years intact, having gone through the same thing - so we know there is light at the end of the tunnel, just as there will be for you! ... View more