Hi trpack, Oh~Girls!! You must be so frustated, going home everyday tired after work and still have to face all these. I hated argue, its draining and meaningness. I am not sure if my advise is relevant as I have 2 boys, no girl plus my boys are not verbally abusive. So please excuse me and ignore it if you find it irrelevant. Since I am not good at argue with people so I avoid all meaningness "discussion" with my boys, words like "that mean you don't love me", "now you just don't care" kind of teens speech, whenever my boys get angry and talk to me like that, I don't follow their conversation, I simply point out that I can see he is agitated and angry now, so we cannot discuss anything until he calms down, lets distant ourselves from each other so we will not say things we will regret later. Then its either he goes to his own room or if he doesn't walk away, I will walk away into my room. He did follow me once and I can sense he stand outside my room, but I don't go out until he calm down. Usually it won't take long as there is nobody for him to angry at! Chinese saying "you cannot clap with only 1 hand" I don't plan to come out with this idea, its just simply I am not good at arguing so I avoid it, but it works for me, my older boy is now 15, his worse year was ~12-13 years old, he is now very reasonable, though he still gets angry every now and then, but no longer those meaningness, provoking speech. Once again, I don't know if it will work for girls and every family is different.
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