Our 23 year old son will not study, get a job or claim any kind of benefits. We are on low wages and struggling financially but he says that’s our problem. He lives with us and doesn’t contribute anything monetarily . He occasionally will do house chores but usually under sufferance. We are at a loss as to what to do short of asking him to leaves hi hi we can’t do. We bought a used car for him two years ago thinking it would help him find work or a social life at least. He suffers from anxiety and is currently consulting a psychologist, again under sufferance and says it barely helps him. Our thought was that if he cannot work due to the anxiety, he would be entitled to a disability payment. He also refuses to claim this and of course his psychologist cannot engage with us about this issue because of confidentiality. I cannot believe our son can think it’s ok to live like this. His two older brothers are both gainfully employed and live away from us. ... View more

Hi there, I heard about reach out when searching beyondblue for ideas. Hubby and I feel like there is no one who can help us help our twenty one year old son. He is lonely, angry and unwilling to seek or accept help. He is underweight, has sleeping problems and rarely emerges from his room. We are trying to get him to increase his driving hours (he has almost enough to be tested); have purchased him a second hand car. We want him to see a GP to get help for his sleeping problem but he refuses to do this. He claims ALL online mental health services “work from a script” and don’t care about callers. His level of skepticism and criticism of any mental health service provider is boundless. Yesterday, he had a meltdown about his weight; loneliness; isolation; inability to sleep and punched a hole in a wall.( not for the first time.) We are so desperate and powerless to help him. We have told him we love him and want him to find happiness but that this needs to come from within. We cannot help feeling that this will end with him taking his own life. I don’t know what anyone can say but writing it down here has kind of lightened the load for a moment. ... View more