It is probably the most difficult thing we will possibly endure parenting because I know I feel like I’ve failed somewhere along the way 😔 I wish I could just wrap him up in cotton wool and protect him forever. I know he has mental health issues but he is yet to be medically diagnosed , only with anxiety and depression. He is on medication which was helping but since he has turned to his own self medicating his life is in turmoil and he can’t see it. Well actually he can but he can’t control it. And no I have had no support because there just isn’t any. He’s had councellors , private and headspace and now CAMHS but it seems of no use. They talk and talk but the kids also know how to manipulate and tell Councellors what they want to hear. I’ve had to call the police twice and that was the hardest thing I’ve had to do where he was taken by ambulance to hospital because he was suicidal. He’s been discharged 3 times from hospital with absolutely no help or support for me. All the hospitals and police day they see this all day everyday and no one knows what to do. Everyone just says take him to a Gp and get a medication review. But nothing ever happens. There is just no help. I know I am one of many parents struggling with the same thing. Children are struggling , there’s too much for them to try and keep up with. It’s an epidemic that is getting out of our control. ... View more

Aww everything you say I feel like it’s me !!! It sounds like we even feel the same. And you are exactly right they are completely controlling the situation , and it’s near impossible now to parent them. What I find hurts the most is I haven’t seen my loving affectionate boy for too long now, I don’t believe I’ve even seen a smile from him for months. What if they never realise they are destroying their lives and what future will they have, And to hear you say your son says he is wired differently makes me understand they are trying to self medicate for their mental health but can’t see how destroying it is. I wish I had some kind of advice for you , even for myself. Stay strong and we have to be positive that we are doing our best , I just don’t know what more we can do to help when we ourselves have lost any kind of control 😢 ... View more

Our situation sounds exactly the same!! I feel like you that it’s hard to talk to family friends etc. they are supportive but the same thing “why the hell is he doing that” if I knew I’d resolve it. I suppose in a way I feel like a bad mother, like I’ve done something wrong because I don’t understand why. He is my middle child , my other 2 children witnessed him raging then self harming. Of course my youngest was horrified/traumatised as we all were. It’s not what anyone wants to witness of their loved one. He takes up all my attention because I’m so worried about him and always trying to help him but I don’t think he wants my help. We now go to CAMHS but he’s only been twice , he’s not willing to talk to councillors telling me it’s pointless. I end up going to the session without him. The school have been supportive and know that he has a mental health issue (anxiety/depression) and the school Councellors can see he is troubled , they try to work hard with him when he goes to school but that hasn’t been often. He is now at the point where he doesn’t care about anything or anyone and he is completely lost. He freely admits to me that he’s not wired like everyone else and doesn’t feel anything. My heart is breaking. How do we get through to them ? I’ve always done the soft calm talk to calm him down , but since these drugs have been involved I can’t control him. ... View more