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4 weeks ago
4 weeks ago
Hi @Worriedmum78, firstly thank you for sharing what your family are going through and welcome to the parents and carers community. It must have been so shocking and upsetting to learn that your daughter was still seeing this guy and the support they had from others in the young man's life. I can hear how understandably worrying her being in a relationship with, and moving in with him is, given his history of criminal charges, as well as the signs of coercive control.
I want to say you've done what sounds like the best anyone could do to protect your daughter in a really awful situation, which shows how much you love and care for her. I can only imagine how distressing it must be seeing your daughter act so differently to the person you raised. It sounds like you have also identified some signs of coercive control in this relationship which must have been a really scary discovery also. I'm wondering if you were able to talk to your daughter about the discovery of the snapchat messages?
Do you have anyone supporting you through this at the moment? It might be helpful reaching out to a service like 1800RESPECT to chat more about coercive control and supporting a loved one experiencing it. They can also support you around how and when to have conversations with your daughter about the relationship, along with steps to take should the time come when your daughter needs to leave the relationship safely.
We'll also be sending an email shortly as well so please keep an eye out for that! Take care and looking forward to hearing from you
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