01-28-2023 01:36 PM
01-28-2023 02:03 PM - edited 01-28-2023 02:04 PM
Thank you for sharing. We're really sorry to hear that you're in such a difficult position with your granddaughter. It sounds like you're really doing all you can to get your granddaughter the support she deserves. It is great that you were able to take her to a counsellor and that things began to improve. Is she still seeing a counsellor? It might be helpful to explore what has changed lately that might have lead her to self harm again. You could also revisit what was helpful about seeing the counsellor and whether your granddaughter is still implementing these tools. It is also not uncommon for teenagers to lapse or relapse when it comes to self harm but it is very reasonable to be worried about what might be happening behind the scenes, so it is great that you have made this post today. We have an article here on self harm which might explain a few things.
If you're ever worried about the safety of your daughter, we encourage you to call local emergency or crisis services.
This whole situation must be really stressful and worrying for you as her family member and carer. We can imagine that it would take a toll on you overtime. Do you have your own support at the moment?
01-30-2023 07:01 AM
01-30-2023 03:16 PM
Thank you for sharing more about your situation. It sounds like you have been tremendously supportive and have done a great job of being there for her and getting her the help she needs. It is clear how much she means to you and she is very lucky to have someone like you in her life.
It is understandable how challenging this all must be for you, I was wondering if you have any support or if you’ve been able to talk to anyone about this, whether it be family, a friend, GP or mental health professional? I’m mindful of the impact this must be having on you and want to remind you that you don’t have to do this alone and there are support and services available if you need.
It is good to hear that you have booked a counselling session, it sounds like this was really helpful for her previously. I was wondering if there was a way for you to be involved in these counselling sessions to some degree so that you can learn about and be aware of your Granddaughter's triggers, self-soothers and boundary setting strategies so that you can support her in these ways specifically?
I know that you mentioned you were looking for some advice on how you could get her to talk to you more about this and wanted to let you know that we have an article on effective communications and teenagers which might be helpful to have a read through. It includes some information along with a list of things to try. I’m sorry that you are feeling inadequate and want to remind you that these are really difficult concerns to navigate and it sounds like you have been doing everything you can to support your Granddaughter – even by reaching out shows how much you care and want to support her through this.
I was wondering if it may be helpful to create a safety plan together? Or maybe you can get some support from the counsellor on creating one together. We have some suggestions here that might help guide this conversation.