01-23-2020 03:26 PM
01-23-2020 07:23 PM - edited 01-23-2020 07:26 PM
Hi @Daddy-McFly, welcome to ReachOut and thanks for sharing that. I can only imagine how frustrating this must be for you, considering it has been happening for one year now. Sleep is such a delicate issue and impacts both parents and child. it sounds as though you have been doing your best to get to the bottom of this issue We feel for both you and your wife, it must be such a challenging experience.
Our service is for Australian parents of teenagers aged 12 - 18, seeking support for their children's mental health. This means our support and referrals are limited by age and location as it appears that you are located in the USA. Have you thought of talking to a GP about what you have been experiencing? They may be able to direct you to local services that can help you through this. In Australia, we have a Parents Line - perhaps your country may have a similar service? You could run these keywords through Google to see if anything comes up. Please keep an eye on your email, as I will be sending one through
04-10-2020 03:44 AM
Your little man has his own personality. He's his own little person and has no understanding how to conform to your daughter's construct. Your little boy just wants to be with you. If by having him nestled by your side for a few months, or a year or two, accommodates an acceptable familial sleeping pattern, then so be it. He won't be sleeping in your bed when he's 10 years old.
If you're open to having him in your bed to placate all concerned .. so be it, You may enjoy and reflect.
When he's a little older ... he'll have his own bed and you'll miss him being with you.
Unfortunately, parents are told they need to separate themselves from their babies. In my mind, your son was nestled and nurtured in his mum's tum for 9.5 months. He knows your voices ... that is what soothes and comforts him.
Do not take on anyone else's advice ... do what works for you! He is your child - be firm & loving.
I've commented on your post because your circumstance is the same as mine was .. my daughter just celebrated her 17th birthday (in isolation - as the rest of the word is) and she's just as an ordinary, everyday teen.
You'll be fine. He'll be fine. Just go with the flow, If having him sleep with you works for all ... just go with it !!