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Autistic teen and father keep clashing

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Dendrobium

Autistic teen and father keep clashing

Hi All. There is so much disharmony in our household and I would value advice please.  Our teen has autism, ADHD and trouble with emotional regulation.  His father (my husband) has issues himself with emotional regulation and is triggered by his son.  
There is so much disharmony and conflict between them, which often results in husband saying horrible things to son. I remind husband he is the adult and needs to manage his own behavior, son has a disability, to no avail.  Husband doesn't think he has a problem.  Professionals have not made much headway, either.   I feel so helpless and sad.  Any advice welcome. Thanks

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Bailey_RO

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Hey @Dendrobium 

Thank you for being so honest about what has been going on for you.

It sounds like there has been a lot going on for you all and it is understandable how challenging this must be for you all to be navigating. I am really glad that you have found our community and have been able to reach out for some support.

I know you mentioned that your son has autism, ADHD and trouble with emotional regulation and I was wondering what supports your son currently has and if he is seeing a GP or mental health professional? If so, have you been able to speak to them about what has been going on to see if they have any advice?

I wanted to let you know that ReachOut offers a free coaching service for parents which you and your husband may be interested in. We have some more information about it here.

I also wanted to share some resources we have here around family conflict which I thought you may find helpful to have a look through. Amaze also have some information and support for parents of children with autism that is worth checking out too.

I was also wondering if you have any support for yourself at the moment and if you have anyone to talk to about this, whether it be a friend, family member, GP or mental health professional? It is important that you also have all the support that you need as you don’t have to be dealing with this on your own.

Ps. we have also sent you an email to check in, could you please keep an eye out for that?

Take care and remember that we are here for you and you aren’t alone.