I feel like my life is not my own either. Every thing we do has to revolve around the stupid schedule and it just gets old. I I have no issue with my husband loving his son either. I would never ask him to not see his son. But I feel like with the guilty dad syndrome he over compensates and puts my feelings last just to save face for his son because he wants to do what’s best for him. What about what’s best for our marriage? Our daughter? Me? I’m lucky that my stepson doesn’t come over to my parents. My parents never accepted our relationship from the beginning so they wouldn’t like it if my husbands son came over to their house. So I drew the line there and I set my boundaries. At least I have my own side of the family untainted. Everything else in my life is literally taken over my his son. Bad thing is, when my husband has his son when my family is throwing a party my husband can’t come and I go alone with our daughter and I end up missing him. ... View more

I look forward to days when he’s older too. Hopefully he doesn’t want to hang out with his friends and decide to skip a weekend…that would be so nice. I cook for him, I’ll say hi back to him and whatever but that’s all I can handle. I don’t think my husband will ever accept that. He’s a big softie with big emotions and he wants us to be a big happy family. He wants me to be there for his son and LIKE it. I can’t. ... View more

Do we have the same husband? Because mine literally does the same thing when he compares my daughter to his son so that I can relate to him better. It’s just makes me even more mad because their situation is not even remotely the same. When I say how much I love my daughter he goes “now you know how much I love my son” when I say I miss her “now you know how hard it is not to see my son”.  ... View more

But honestly you have to approach this problem carefully choose your words wisely.  Try not to say anything mean or offensive…which I know it’s hard given what you have to go through  ... View more

Wow this hits me hard. I would be sooo disappointed and frustrated if I couldn’t go on vacation with just my husband and bio kid. What’s wrong with going vacation without his son? You guys need to continue living your lives when he did not there. It’s not fair to your child you only get to do fun things when your husbands son comes around. ... View more

I’m in the exact situation. I got myself into a big mess getting involved with someone who has a child with another person. I feel like there is no escape or right decision….therapy isn’t helping me figure it out. What is the lesser evil? Staying around and dying inside or leaving my husband knowing that I won’t be with the love of my life and our daughter won’t grow up with her parents together…. ... View more

You are lucky in the sense that your husband no longer puts pressure on you to be someone that you are not. But even if he doesn’t expect anything from you anymore, I know it’s not easy to have your stepchild around no matter what the situation. I feel you. The more I tell my husband that I don’t feel comfortable around his son, that I don’t like playing with him, that we have nothing in common, and that I have trouble liking him, the more angry and hurt my husband gets. Then this leads to him expecting even more out of me when his son comes over and if I don’t produce good results he resents me more and more each time. We are doing couples therapy right now and it’s not working. No amount of therapy will change how I feel about his son. I just don’t like him and I really hate being forced to like him. They tell me to put a picture of him up on my fridge. No thank you. They tell me to hug him once a day. I cringe at the thought of that. It’s getting really bad and right now my husband and I are trying to figure out if we can work it out and find a compromise. We love each other very much and we want to be together, especially for our daughter who is about to be 3 months. ... View more

My husband and I are on the brink of divorce because he knows how I feel about his son. I never thought it would be this difficult but it’s killing me slowly to be in this family dynamic. I never wanted to be a stepmom and I still don’t. I don’t want to be responsible for him and I don’t really want to spend time with him either. I know it’s hard to believe but I just don’t like the kid even if he’s 2.5 years old. There’s just something about him that I don’t like. I hide in my room to avoid him and it really upsets my husband. Staying in this marriage is hard but so is separating from my husband after having a baby together who is only 12 weeks. ... View more