04-29-2017 02:15 AM
05-01-2017 08:57 AM
Hi @Dolphin_73, you certainly have a lot going on at the moment.
I read your post last night but decided not to respond immediately to give my response some thought and to mull over the big picture.
As an outsider looking in, and only from using what you have said in your post, your daughter has definitely figured out how to manipulate her grandmother to get what she wants. My question is though, does your mother in law have anybody in her life apart from your daughter?
I get the feeling (and this only my opinion), your mother in law is using your daughter as her companion, or to make her feel young and alive. She is giving your daughter everything she wants because she is afraid if she doesn't your daughter won't want to be with her and she will be left on her own. And as you say, your daughter has cottoned on to this and is milking it for all it is worth.
It is a symbiotic relationship. your daughter gets everything she wants, and your mother in law isn't alone.
It is going to be hard to try and resolve this situation, especially if your mother in law feels she is going to lose, she will fight to keep everything as it is. Maybe you need to put this thought to your mother in law and see how she responds.
Hope these thoughts help.
05-01-2017 09:35 AM