Hi @Cpaps84, thank you for sharing. Your daughter's behaviour sounds tricky to handle. I can hear that you have tried a lot of different tactics but are left feeling stuck. It must be really upsetting and scary to see her hitting walls, kicking doors and sometimes pushing or slapping her little brother. I imagine that your 4 year old might feel quite upset or afraid when this happens - how do you manage these kinds of situations? If you ever feel like the situation is escalating and/or you are worried about the safety of yourself or anyone in your family, you are encouraged to call 000.
I am wondering if your daughter receives any support from a health professional like a counsellor or psychologist? Also, all of this sounds so difficult to manage and I bet it can get exhausting when you are trying to care for multiple kids. Is there anything you do by yourself or as a family to recharge? If you want to find support in your area for yourself or your kids, Neami has a service directory.
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