Daugther isn’t trusting me

[Kate2020]

My 21 yo daughter is bringing her boyfriend home early in the mornings secretly, I don’t know him, she acts like she’s not in a relationship. I discovered it like 2 months ago and I feel so bad because she didn’t trust me , I want to talk to her about it but I don’t know how. I need some advice

[Ronan-RO]

Hey @Kate2020 ,

Thanks for your post.  It sounds like your daughter doesn't want you to know as she may fear your response (e.g., if you disapprove).  I think you've already partially answered your question .  You said you want her trust you.  You could try being really open with her, inform her that you know what's going on, and tell her that you'd love for her to to able to trust you, rather than operating covertly.  What do you think?

[Linnn]

Do you think she had reasons to hide her bf? You need to understand not that she doesn't trust you, you need to find the reason why.