There is so much relief and sadness reading these stories. I have deep empathy for everyone and know I am not alone. My daughter abused herself and me, both physically and emotionally for years. Knocking me out cold among other things. She was 14 when the BPD started to show its ugly head. She is currently in her 30s and behaving the same. I did anything and everything you folks have done. I have had outsiders say they could never have consitantly done what my husband and I went through to help her. If my husband had not passed he would be joining me here. I put my heart and soul into getting her help and she resisted everything. I felt helpless, constantly overwhelmed, fearful and always walking on egg shells. Never knowing what the next trigger was or when. It was a nightmare and takes its tole on parents and loved ones. The love and concern I have for her will always be there, she will always be my baby. As I am getting older I had to make a choice, continue with the verbal beat downs or take care of me. I finally chose me and cut ties with her, very very painful. As it's been said, this is her journey now. Love them and be there no matter what and make time for SELF CARE. I wish for all our daughters to find help and some joy in life as I wish for the parents also. ... View more