I have 4 children 1 daughter 29, 1 daughter 20, 1 daughter 18, and 1 son 15. My 20 and 18 year old have suffered with social anxiety (my words for it) I would say all their lives. I have as well. Both have had difficulties going to school. Which lead to both being removed from public school and home schooled in jr high. I am convinced one or both may be on the autism spectrum. I tried for years to get help from their pediatrician, their school, counselors and one went to therapy which ended when we were forced to literally carry her kicking and screaming to the car. They both ended up dropping out of homeschool and now for the last almost 7 years since we have moved to a new town have been completely isolated from any kind of friends. Won't put in any effort to help themselves. Don't want to be social with anyone. And seemed not to mind having no friends whatsoever.  Since they refuse therapy I am in therapy myself to help them see it is a good thing but also because I am so stressed over it and more that i have panic attacks or anxiety attacks myself. I have been diagnosed with depression and moderate to severe ptsd (past trauma)I have tried talking to them one just refuses completely this is my 20 yr old who Im almost positive is on the spectrum. And my 18 yr old only says "I don't know" every time I ask a question about how shes feeling. I worry about her the most shes in her room all the time only comes out to eat. Barely says 2 words in a day. My therapist says it will take a long time to get them to come out of this with very small steps. They have no real life skills and I blame myself so much for where they are but for years I have tried to do the best I could I reached out to so many different ppl with no help. Dr's always said "oh they will grow out of it" That has not happened this is the worst its ever been. I don't even know what I'm even asking for on this forum. I just don't know what to do anymore. Mental health help in America is so hard and so expensive. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks  ... View more