I've just found weed and cash in my 18-year-old's bedroom. I know he has been smoking weed, because when I find it I throw it out. He also vapes. He is an apprentice tradie with a really good company. They think he's fantastic. He works really hard, sometimes even working six days a week if they need him. He has a good work ethic and wants to do well in life. He's had terrible trouble with his car and it's a money pit. He wants to get rid of it, and is thinking of a loan. I'm wondering whether he thinks this is a quick fix?
He's not easy to talk to at all and will be angry that I have found his stash. We have weekly confrontations about drugs, or him coming home late, not eating dinner with us, or vaping, which is another concern. When he isn't vaping or stoned he can be charming and funny. But that is rare these days.
Nothing we say seems to get through. We need to have a calm conversation with him. Has anyone got any advice on what to say? He will presumably ask for the drugs and money back, which I don't want to do, but I don't know if he owes anyone the money. He would never forgive us if we involved the police.
He has amazing potential, he is smart (despite what he is doing right now) and a quick learner. As I say his boss thinks he's great. I'm worried he is going to throw everything away.
Thanks for listening.
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