It can be so difficult @DISTRESSEDMOM. We're human too and it hurts when our kids shut us out or treat us poorly. Implementing any change takes persistence and patience, but it can be so trying and so hard to keep it together at times.    My daughter can be very bossy and disrespectful sometimes. I let her know that I'm not going to engage with her when she speaks to me that way, and I don't. Sometimes I need to leave the room or go outside to get away and not let my thoughts take over which is when I get really upset.    With the self harm alternatives, maybe make a printout and leave it in her room with some elastic bands? Even if she initialy rejects the idea, you'll have planted the seed. Would that be something you'd be comfortable doing?         ... View more