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Mukmukmoo · ‎08-08-2023

Thank you for your message. Yes, we are not alone. In the throws of a refusal, it feels like I'm not in control as she is stubborn and but it seems like genuine tears. The world is a very different place to when i went to school. Sure there were problems along the way, but nothing to the extent of these days. We are working through some alternative pathways. I suppose I'm thinking, why put my daughter through something that she really is not enjoying. It's not on a whim that she's feeling like she does. She is very involved in her netball, dance and her grades are actually quite good. Just that seems mainstream school is not working for her. Her dad and I have had a big chat today (he's asked heaps of questions and made some great points of wanting to know what exactly is the problem....subject teachers, other students, being engaged etc. So we will have a little family meeting on the weekend. My daughter and I have lots of little chats, so that's not a problem to talk about "stuff"...BUT she can't find the words to explain what's going on for her. So we'll chat again and ask some leading questions...also will talk to her phycologist too. I'm looking at a government run school for students that don't suit mainstream for years 9-10 (starting next year) and in the meantime homeschool her for the rest of the year...the homeschooling is in a structured online capacity...zoom lessons 9am-1.15pm four days a week...get the work done and probably quicker. If she needs high level they are able to accommodate it. So we are in the discussion stage of whats going on and finding solutions. I hope that you find a way to move through all of this too. In the peaceful moments of life comes the answers.

Mukmukmoo · ‎06-27-2023

My Teen daughter doesn't want to go to school. I've asked her what is wrong, what triggers her feelings and MANY more questions that she can't find the answers to. I understand that she is young and can't always find the words. I'm just very frustrated at the moment and feel like she's got herself in such a rut as she's had many days off in the last term with Cough/cold/sniffles (the school don't want children there as they are worried about covid (which she is NOT positive), also knee trouble etc. I feel like I've set her up to not want to go with allowing this many days off. AH! She had counselling at the end of last year for some bullying issues...she has assured me that she is not being bullied now. She just doesn't want to go. We have just started counselling again, only had one session, where she brought up about being worried about people speaking about her behind her back. Which on the other side of it she assures me this is actually not happening...she's just WORRIED about if people were to. She's previously expressed she doesn't like being around all judgemental kids at school...they way they talk....the energy of it all really affects her. I digging deep to understand that this is how she "feels"...but I'm finding it hard to deal with at this very moment. I've done years of self-development work myself...but this situation is really rattling my chains. So i too will be working on what triggers ME to react this way. I'm essentially handling this by myself, my ex (we are on good terms and he is worried about her). but she is more "emotional" with me and when she goes to his place tomorrow night, like last week, she'll get up the next morning and wont bat an eyelid to kick up a fuss...and off she'll go to school...So I feel like I'm being emotionally "Played." I just don't know what to do next. I will call the school today at some point to explain the situation and see what we can do from there. I suppose it's just great to have a forum to get this out. Thank you for listening/reading.

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