I don't know where to go or who to ask. I was just starting to have a breakthrough with my daughter (14yr) who is suffering from bpd. Just last week I was told I had a tumor and will need surgery to have it removed and to check for the big c. My husband and i thought it best not to tell the kids until after Christmas. So we can have a good day. Although the drs said surgery will be soon. 12am Christmas morning I was at the hospital with my daughter who felt like she wanted to commit suicide. Yesterday we drew the courage to discuss with my daughter and her 2 older siblings the situation. I know it was probably the worst timing. (I thought I was doing the right thing) I didn't want them to be ambushed with hey I'm sick, tomorrow I'm going to the hospital to have x removed. I wanted to give them all time to process it and ask questions and so we could be here to support them before this all goes down. Anyways since my daughter was told she has told me that I should just hurry up and die. She thinks I'm blaming her (Despite me telling her otherwise). I have given her space and have told her I love her, repeatedly told her that none of this is anyone's fault. Then today she just walks into my room, looks at me and said "oh your not dead yet! What a shame". Whilst I understand that she is trying to push me away so she doesn't get hurt, I'm scared this will hurt her even more. I am gutted everytime I hear her say it and dawn, it's hard. Any advice on how to support her through this ... View more