Hi Astra-RO, Thank you for your kind welcome and thoughts, they are very much appreciated. I think the big trigger for me was a few months ago, when I was really starting to get affected by it, my wife pointed out that we don’t have a relationship right now, and if that didn’t change, we may never get it back. This frightened me greatly, as my family (extended) are all super close so the thought that this could ever be a permanent thing really frightens me. It’s probably been close to four or five months, and I can’t think of an obvious trigger, though prior to this, he seemed to be the same towards my daughter (11) which has always annoyed me, and I would constantly pull him up on it (this would have been the case for the last 4 or five years) but nothing obvious other than that. He’s definitely going through puberty right now, his voice has dropped, so I will certainly read through those articles you have provided: I’ve been reading some parenting books, that present this as normal, and not to worry, but that seems to suggest that his mood and attitudes are more a global approach, where as this seems very targeted at me, as he is lovely to my wife and his friends parents always complement me on how lovely and polite he is to them. I got close to a panic attack a few nights ago about it, which my wife was able to talk me down from, though she spontaneously decided to have a family meeting to discuss mental health and brought up that I wasn’t doing so well and that his attitude towards me probably wasnt helping. He took this personally, so I was very careful to pull him aside and explain to him that he isn’t the reason I am having mental health difficulties, that it as actually been somthing I’ve struggled with long before he was born and can be affected by many things, but sometimes that his actions can make me overthink things, and upset me and contribute to my overall difficulties. I told him I loved him and I was there to support him, but that I just need him to be mindful of that. I did take comfort in the fact that a few weeks ago, he was sleep walking, and I told him I loved him as I helped him back to bed; he responded with “I love you too” which made me hope there really is love in there, which I need to remind myself of sometimes. In any case, thanks for the kinds words and suggestions. I will certainly read them and take them on board and continue working on myself Thank you again for the welcome
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