My 17 year old daughter was a very loving and caring girl, very bright student. We are very open parents. Last year a guy proposed her for dating, she hid it from me. I found out when I checked her phone. I got really upset because I always made sure that she knows we are okay for her to have a boyfriend but she still hid it. I never taught her lying. I was really upset for her lying to me. But then she said sorry and we sorted. I have banned her from social media until her HSC die to excessive screen time. She was okay with it. By then downloaded snapchat and Instagram couple of times without asking. That too I found out when I checked her phone. Then we again had arguments and I made it clear that don’t lie to me. That’s what annoys me most. Come talk to me if you need anything and I will let you do it but please don’t lie. 6 weeks ago she had breakup with her boyfriend. We all were upset and I even cried feeling bad for her. She was sad but pretending to be strong and didn’t cry in front of us. It was not her fault, he left her saying he wants to explore options. A week later I found out through her chats that He cheated on her when they were together and she found out about it but still didn’t do anything. I tried to tell her that cheating is a red flag and she should never let it slide like this in any relationship with any guy. Then again she said that’s why I never tell you anything. And we had arguments as I want her to learn this for future. And ever since childhood I have been teaching them that two things will never be acceptable in a relationship: 1. Cheating 2. Abuse of any kind. But still she didn’t get the point. Then 3 weeks later I found out she is about to propose her ex-boyfriend’s best friend. She was talking to him since break up but I thought they are just friends and it okay if she is fine and not crying over her ex-boyfriend. This best friend was involved when her ex cheated on her. They both went out with girls together. He didn’t say anything at that time but now after breakup he called and told her that he always wanted to tell her that her ex cheated and lied about it. He touched her soft corner and she started liking him now. And again hid it from me. I banned her for talking to him and made her understand that she is vulnerable at the moment and he is trying to get benefit out of it. Made her understand and she promised she wouldn’t talk to him and blocked him but again Saturday I found her talking to him at night. I again got really angry as lying annoys me to hell. And I loose my temper. But this time I gave her her phone and told her she can do whatever she wants to. And she will learn from her experience. Since last break up she has not been studying at all and she will regret it later as she was very ambitious. Now been 3 days me and hubby are not talking to her and infact she didn’t come to talk as well and neither said sorry. I don’t want to accept this new boy as I know he is doing all this for fun and she thinks he is a good friend but he will leave her as well. And that will break her even more as she is very sensitive girl. I am telling her to wait till UNI to find a new boyfriend. At least they will have the same aim as her. None of these current boys are interested in studying and he is the one who bought alcohol and gave her to drink on her ex birthday. She hid that also from me. I am really tired of her continuously lying and not even acknowledging if parents are not talk. I went to talk to her today, she said she doesn’t want to talk about it. Infact she should have been the one to come and say sorry for lying. Please help how should I fix this problem? ... View more