Hi Powerless mum, I know you wrote your message last year but I am in very similar circumstances so wanted to reach out to you in case you get my message because I know the pain that BPD issues with teen daughters gives. I am also a single mum as my husband passed in Dec 2020 and my daughter who was always just "difficult"  went from being resilient and almost straight As to an addict and abuser also. It was (I believe) also when my daughter started with marijuana. My son (I found out afterwards) told me she had been telling friends at school that I had been abusing her (when in actual fact it was the opposite). He was apparently setting ppl straight at school. Anyway she left school and went to be homeless for the worst 18 months of life worrying about her and only hearing when the police rang to say she'd been picked up for another misdemeanour and once when she very nearly suicided (the paramedic rang me himself and told me she had been essentially dead but they'd managed to revive her and rang me at the hospital because they were talking about discharging her just hours later and he was disgusted). I've had cancer twice and chemo, struggles with depression  and experienced the death of a husband and trying to fight a losing battle with life insurance and administrate an intestate estate during covid. Took 3 years . Worst 3 years of my life, but the worst of it all was the 18 months not knowing ea day whether my daughter was dead or alive and not being able to do a **bleep** thing about it. She cut contact with every person who loved her and was of good influence despite everyone's best efforts. She miraculously came back out of the blue beginning of this year when her girlfriend had encouraged her to make contact. I was so grateful to have her back but I think I'm losing her again as she broke up with her girlfriend and has been away from home for increasing periods. She had been doing so well staying off alcohol and learning to drive, applying for jobs. Of course my world is crumbling again also. How are you faring? ... View more