Thank you for welcoming me @taokat. Is there a place I can ask privately for further clarification on the guidelines? I don't see anything in there about not posting links. I don't want to post anything improper.
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There's also the Keirsey website you can google.
They have some short descriptions of the 4 personality types.
(Each 4 in turn has 4 subcategories, making a total of 16 personality types. However, they all group together nicely into 4 main groups. The advantage of knowing there are 16 is, if you feel you are different from everyone else, it's because no matter what personality type you have, there are 15 others!)
I take the approach of I can lay out options in front of my kid and see if he takes any of them. I don't push him in any direction. I just point out directions he can go.
I was taught meditation by doing it for just one minute. (That's a long time for a novice!) Just tell them to return their focus to the present moment, and when their mind wanders, which it will, let the thought go and return their focus to the present moment. That might be enough to get the ball rolling.
And we're always taught the best way to help others, is to first help ourselves. When we are calm, then others become calm. When we take care of our spiritual needs, then we are in a better position to nurture others. So I go to support groups which help me, and that in turn helps my son.
Best wishes! Sounds like you are doing all the right things!
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She might benefit from some training the mind techniques. Mindfulness meditation. Yoga. Qu-Gong. Tai-Chi. Understanding her personality type can help in understanding her. It can also help her understand herself. See David Keirsey book Please Understand Me II. (The II means second expanded edition ) One quick test you can do is ask her if she sees information in other people's eyes. If she does not know what you are talking about, look up Aspergers. Find her a book on body language. If she does not do well in school, she may have the Artisan personality type. They excel in other areas. (Schools are designed by Guardians for Guardians, not for Artisans. They need hands on action.) Listening is a key skill. When someone can tell their story, it makes them feel better. Watch for the possibility of starting drug use, or alcohol, as a means of escape. (They are very good at hiding it so there's really no way you can tell. If it's there then eventually it will become known.) She thinks people who go to councilors are defective people. Actually some if the best most well adjusted people go to councelors. Knowing her personality type will tell you what she bases her self-esteem on, and what motivates her. Sometimes large schools can be overwhelming, and the student may do better in a small school. (Sorry there is no magic panacea. Oh, there are free Meditation apps one can download on their cell phone.)
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