I too have a daughter that identifies as pansexual. I have accepted that and offered unconditional love. She recently shared (gently pulled out of her) that she goes by a gender neutral name at school. That’s hard to accept. I’ve done well with handling my initial shock. It’s so challenging. She’s only 13. I too wonder if it’s an attention seeking behavior. I sometimes find messages and memes on her phone that imply her family doesn’t accept her. Like she has some tragic life where her family has deemed her an embarrassment. This is so far from it, in my opinion. I constantly tell her I accept her, I’m proud of her, and that we will love her no matter what. I mean it too. She doesn’t want her dad to know about it however. I of course have confided in him since he is my husband/best friend. A previous person shared that they felt children that identify in this way sometimes appear troubled. I couldn’t agree more. That’s what I worry about. Did I not give her enough attention? Did (insert stressful life event) have an effect on her? I consider myself a “single married mom” due to my husband being deployed or forced to live separately due to my husband being reassigned. I wonder if this has more of an impact than I realize. Raising children is so stressful! I will be the first to admit that I care what others think too much. It helps to vent. Thanks all for listening.
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