My son either leaves for 3 days at a time and gets angry with him for texting him or he stays in his room for a week alone without showering or brushing his teeth - which is not how I raised him - and says he hates his life and wants to end it.  He is so depressed but every time I make him a doctor appointment he refuses to go.  He is 18 so I cannot do much.  I have tried to help him find a job and every time he gets one he works for a week and then melts down and quits.  I have to bring his meals and drinks to his room for him, clean his room for him, do his laundry, go to the store, he cannot do anything for himself.  I'm afraid to stop because he gets so angry and leaves and then I'm afraid he will do drugs or something crazy and I won't have a son anymore.  I know if something happens to him it will be my  fault for being lazy and not wanting to continue to take care of him.  This effects everyone's lives and my 8 year old has to live through it too and it isn't fair to her.  I feel stuck.  I don't mind giving him money and taking care of him but he is mean and angry.  I know it's because he is mentally ill and so sad but it hurts to constantly be disrespected and sworn at and not be appreciated. I have to stop working sometimes because he has some whim that needs my attention but then I feel so bad for him. He doesn't have any friends or go to school and without working I don't know how he will meet people and build a life.  It's all just so a mess and I don't know what to do. He smokes pot every day and he says it's the only thing that makes him not feel anxious.  I think it makes things worse for a person and I don't do drugs but he just argues the point with me and I'm tired of fighting about it.  I have no idea how to help this kid and he is just getting worse.  He spent 3 days out and now he has been in his room for a week and in all of that time has not showered or brushed his teeth.  He just plays video games and watches videos online.  His sleep schedule is crazy.  He either sleeps for 20 hours or stays up for 2 days.  Does anyone have a suggestion of what I can do to help him if he won't go to the doctor or to therapy? I am out of ideas and I'm afraid, I don't want to lose him.  He is such a good person, he was the most wonderful little boy. I have ruined this child that came into this world and was my responsibility to raise and teach and I've made a mess of this perfect soul that was dependent on me.   ... View more