Did you always secretly suspect?  Were there hints through their childhood to enable you to embrace this 'coming out'?   My feminine 16 yr old daughter was always a girly-girl growing up and had an natural attraction to boys.  We never doubted that she was hetero.  For the past 6 months we figured and accepted her to be developing a bi-curiosity.  Out of the blue she announced 4 weeks ago that she is genderfluid (which I can also wrap my head around), but has also requested to change her name to a distinctly male name, started always dressing as male, wearing a binder, cropping hair short and adopting a swagger instead of walking naturally. She/they have had a girlfriend for about 2 months who claims she's lesbian but seems to prefer my child to present as a male boyfriend.  My child has never expressed any interest in transitioning to male before and I am deeply concerned that they might be being manipulated into looking and acting more than they naturally feel, just to please this girl (first romantic relationship)  My protective maternal instincts are in over-drive and I am distraught beyond words.  Any advice?  ... View more