Hi feeling like I need some help.  I am a white woman in a relationship with a muslim guy.  I love him dearly.  We live together.  However in July his 17 year old sister turned up out of the blue having been disowned by her parents for wearing shorts in the heat.    She has gone from having no freedom to having too much and my partner has no children so he doesnt understand that what she is doing is wrong.     She goes out straight from college without coming home.  Comes in at 10 pm (sometimes its been 11.45 pm on a school night),doesnt say hello, doesnt say goodbye,  doesnt let us know where she's going or who with, doesnt ask us if its ok to go out, doesnt pull her weight around the house, tells us that she is staying out overnight rather than asking if its ok.  Expects me to act as a housekeeper rather than participating in family life.  I have a 22 year old daughter who lives half with her boyfriend and half here but I set boundaries with her and she doesnt step over them.   My partner is so worried about his sister leaving that our relationship is suffering and yet we rarely had disagreements before she came.    His answer is to do and say nothing and it will all go away but friends are saying she is treating the house like a hotel and being disrespectful.  I dont know what to do as I've not been in this situation before but I dont want my relationship to suffer because of it and i'm constantly tearful and cant work.     She is studying for A Levels and has a new boyfriend.   Advice would be greatly appreciated. ... View more