Hey there... Like you, I have and had a "dysfunctional " family revolving around drugs and alcohol. Considering this, and the experience/ experiences I went through, I want my daughter to understand I'm not attacking her as a parent normally would, having the tendencies to react instantly off emotion. Because in my experience that routine didn't help me. My daughter was recently caught with marijuana at school. Of course first hearing this, I was upset to say the least, but i had to gather myself, to react that way would only warrant a negative response. You know how difficult it is growing up, let him know that, it only helps to let him know why it is so important to you he avoids choosing marijuana as an outlet of sorts. To have your child's back and be understanding is important to these guys, like myself I felt like no one understands. All of that being said, of course some kind of"punishment" needs to be enforced, which totally up to you what you think would be appropriate, but don't forget, it's best to make sure your son understands why"this is all taking place", bottom line, you love him. I hope this helps, I know I feel lousy and like my daughter thinks I'm full of it some times, parenting is rough, and no matter what books are out there, it's all about the experience. Good luck. ... View more